The "Shoulds" are something I've always struggled with. I Should be working in Corporate America because everyone else I know is (even though it made my soul hurt). I Should be dating this successful guy (even though he was a total ass). I Should be satisfied with my life (even though I was craving so much more).
But who created these Shoulds? Surely it wasn't me- because they brought me no joy, no satisfaction, only misery, guilt, and a craving for something else. And life should be about doing things that bring you joy and fulfillment
As I've grown older, I've started focusing on shifting my Shoulds so that they are based on MY needs. I Should do things that make my soul sing. I Should follow my passions. I Should challenge myself with things that will make me a better person.
Shoulds are necessary. They get you motivated. They initiate change. But they have to be YOUR Shoulds.
This morning as I was getting ready to go to a bootcamp class I realized that I was actually dreading it. The sun was shining, the air was crisp, and I realized that what I really wanted to do was be outside. So, I ignored that mental dialogue telling me "I Should go to that class" and used the time that would have been spent sitting in rush hour traffic and working out in a windowless room to enjoy a glorious, sun light drenched, oxygen rich 5 mile brisk walk around a glistening lake. And realized that THAT was what I Shouid be doing.
Do you struggle with the Shoulds? What is one Should shift that you've made? How did it affect your day/life?